Encouraging responsible behavior in Teens

Adolescence can be a confusing time of change for teens and parents alike. But while these years can be difficult, there's plenty you can do to nurture your teen and encourage responsible behavior. Teens are usually very sensitive to their surroundings, parents should takecare of the teens feelings. Consider these parenting tips for teens.

Show your loveOne of the most important parenting tips for teens involves positive attention. Spend time with your teen to remind him or her that you care. Listen to your teen when he or she talks, and respect your teen's feelings. Also, keep in mind that only reprimanding your teen and never giving him or her any justified praise can prove demoralizing. For every time you discipline your teen, aim to compliment him or her twice.
If your teen doesn't seem interested in bonding, keep trying. Regularly eating meals together may be a good way to stay connected to your teen. Better yet, invite your teen to prepare the meal with you. You also might encourage your teen to talk to other supportive adults, such as an uncle or older cousin, for guidance.
Minimize pressureDon't pressure your teen to be like you were or wish you had been at his or her age. Give your teen some leeway when it comes to clothing and hairstyles. It's natural for teens to rebel and express themselves in ways that differ from their parents.
As you allow your teen some degree of self-expression, remember that you can still maintain high expectations for your teen and the kind of person he or she will become.
Encourage cyber safetyGet to know the technology your teen is using and the Web sites he or she visits. If possible, keep the computer in a common area in your house. Remind your teen to practice these basic safety rules:
  • Don't share personal information online
  • Don't get together with someone you meet online
  • Don't send anything in a message you wouldn't say face to face
  • Don't text while driving
  • Talk to a parent or if an interaction or message makes you uncomfortable
Set limitsTo encourage your teen to behave well, identify what constitutes acceptable and unacceptable behavior at home, at school and elsewhere. As you establish appropriate rules, explain to your teen the behavior you expect as well as the consequences for complying and disobeying. Consider these parenting tips for teens when setting limits:
  • Avoid ultimatums. Your teen may view an ultimatum as condescending and interpret it as a challenge.
  • Be specific. Rather than telling your teen not to stay out late, set a specific curfew.
  • Be concise. Keep your rules short and to the point.
  • Put rules in writing. Use this technique to counter a selective memory.
  • Be flexible. As your teen demonstrates more responsibility, grant him or her more freedom. If your teen shows poor judgment, impose more restrictions.
  • Be prepared to explain your decision. Your teen may be more likely to comply with a rule when he or she understands its purpose. 
  • Be reasonable. Avoid setting rules your teen can't possibly follow. A chronically messy teen may not be able to maintain a spotless bedroom overnight.
Not sure if you're setting reasonable limits? Talk to your teen, other parents and your teen's doctor. Whenever possible, give your teen a say in establishing the rules he or she is expected to follow.
Prioritize rulesWhile it's important to consistently enforce your rules, you can occasionally make exceptions when it comes to matters such as homework habits, TV watching and bedtime. Prioritizing rules will give you and your teen a chance to practice negotiating and compromising. Before negotiating with your teen, however, consider how far you're willing to bend. Don't negotiate when it comes to restrictions imposed for your teen's safety. Make sure your teen knows early on that you won't tolerate tobacco, alcohol or other drug use.
Enforce consequencesEnforcing consequences can be tough — but your teen needs you to be his or her parent, not a pal. Being too lenient may send the message that you don't take your teen's behavior seriously, while being too harsh can cause resentment. Consider these methods:
  • Active ignoring. Tell your teen that you'll talk to him or her when the whining, sulking or yelling stops. Ignore your teen in the meantime.
  • Scolding and disapproval. Make sure you reprimand your teen's behavior, not your teen. Avoid using a sarcastic, demeaning or disrespectful tone. Also, avoid reprimanding your teen in front of his or her friends.
  • Imposing additional responsibilities. Assign your teen additional household tasks.
  • Imposing additional restrictions. Take away a privilege or possession that's meaningful to your teen, such as computer time or a cell phone.
  • Asking your teen to suggest a consequence. Your teen may have an easier time accepting a consequence if he or she has played a role in deciding it.
Whatever disciplinary tactic you choose, relate the consequences to the broken rule and deliver them immediately. Limit punishments to a few hours or days to make them most effective. Also, avoid punishing your teen when you're angry. Likewise, don't impose penalties you're not prepared to carry out — and punish only the guilty party, not other family members. Never use physical harm to discipline your teen.
Set a positive exampleRemember, teens learn how to behave by watching their parents. Your actions generally speak louder than your words. Set a positive example and your teen will likely follow your lead.
Source: (wateen.net)
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